by Scott Stabile
Join guest presenter Scott Stabile August 12-14 for a series of group discussions on self-love, authenticity, and facing fears. Visit our Event Calendar for activity details.
A friend once referred to me as a “love activist” and I’ve embraced that title. I make a lot of noise for love; for the power of love to create the most important and necessary changes in our lives and our world. I believe love is our greatest healer. Always has been. Always will be.
I also believe that acting from love is often one of the most difficult and courageous things we can do. It’s easy to rage at someone who’s raging at you, to condemn the person who condemns you. To love that person, however—to find empathy and compassion for that person is not only hard, it’s heroic. And our world needs the heroism of love as much as it ever has.
The work that I do through writing, speaking, and leading workshops is rooted in my commitment to love, with the hope of reminding us all of a few truths. We are not alone (even when it feels like it) and we all struggle in remarkably similar ways in this unpredictable and often brutal world. We are worthy, every single one of us, as we are and we don’t need to do a thing to become any more worthy. We are responsible for our lives; our power does not live in the traumas of our past, but in the choices we make in the present. Our willingness to live in our authenticity creates connections and possibilities beyond our wildest dreams. Nothing stands to transform us, our relationships, and our world more than a commitment to live our lives from love.
The discussions I’ll be leading at Red Mountain focus on three themes: facing our fears, identity/authenticity, and self-love. These themes are all connected, of course, and are all a necessary part of living a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Because fear creates the biggest blocks to love, we need to (and can) develop a much friendlier relationship with our fears so they don’t hold us back from making more heart-aligned choices. Part of this process involves facing ourselves honestly to ask the questions, “Who am I?” and “Who am I not?” The more we move through our fears, the more available we become to these answers, to our truth, and to living an authentic life.
Self-love supports it all. As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. How we love ourselves directly impacts how we show up for other people, which is why I believe that self-love needs to be the starting point for all healing, and certainly for a wellness-inspired life.
No matter how well we eat, how often we exercise, or how many retreats we attend, if we’re not also focused on loving ourselves and recognizing that we are worthy and enough exactly as we are, we won’t be living well. Healing happens from within, and it begins with how we treat ourselves. The more love, the more wellness.
I hope everyone who attends my discussions feels seen. I hope you feel less alone in your life and your struggles, and are reminded that you are beautiful and worthy exactly as you are. I hope you feel a bit more energized to face your fears and make brave choices moving forward. I also hope you laugh some and feel determined to approach your life with more self-love.
It doesn’t matter if we’ve spent a life mired in our mind’s self-hatred and abuse. It’s never too late to start loving ourselves for real. It’s never too late to start facing our fears with more courage. It’s never too late to discover that who we are is not who we’ve been conditioned to be. And it’s never too late to start becoming someone new.
About Scott Stabile
Scott Stabile is the author of the books Big Love: The Power of Living with a Wide-Open Heart and Just Love as well as a novel, a short story collection, and an animated feature film. His inspirational social media posts and videos have attracted a devoted online following. He conducts personal empowerment workshops around the world.